Celebrating 10 Years Together: From First Date to Forever
Today marks the 10 years since the beginning of our relationship. Back in January 2014, in the snowy winter during the MLK long weekend, we decided to start our relationship by going on a scenic train ride in Upstate New York. This was our first out-of-state travel together as a couple. This was the moment when we both knew that this was a journey that would last our lifetime.
From First Date to Forever
In these 10 years, we have made countless memories, overcome difficult circumstances, started a few businesses, got married, had a child, bought a house, made a home, and danced our way through a decade of love.
Today, on this snowy weekend in 2024, I want to reflect on our journey and our future. We started our relationship the year I turned 30. This year I will be turning 40. My wife has been with me for my entire 30s. That is such a powerful thing, having someone be with you during your peak years when boys try to become men, become responsible, become mature, and become a source of strength for their families.
I also want to revisit the wedding vows that I had deeply contemplated, written and promised to my soon-to-be-wife during our wedding.
“Today, my beloved, I vow to you:
In moments of joy, I shall laugh beside you, our hearts in unison.
In times of sorrow, I will be your solace, a beacon of comfort and peace.
Together, we shall chase dreams, with my support steadfast as you seek life’s bliss.
I promise to listen with empathy, understanding, and to speak in tones of kindness and tenderness.
From this sacred day forward, my heart is irrevocably intertwined with yours.
My love for you is unbounded, free from hesitation, and beyond all judgment.
I embrace you, all that you are, and all that you will become.
Together, let us embark on life’s grandest adventure: building a family, and nurturing our love through time.
I vow to grow old with you, through all that life bestows upon us.
For in your presence, every challenge is surmountable, every joy magnified.
In your eyes, I find a love eternal, transcending the bounds of time and space.
And so, as I have given you my hand to hold, so too, I entrust you with my life.
From this moment until our final breaths, and beyond into the vastness of eternity.”
I think I need to write a similar commitment to my daughter. Perhaps, we should have similar vows to our parents, siblings, friends & and families. After all, all of these relationships are crucial for a happy life. They keep us grounded in what truly matters in life.
What started as a scenic train ride in the snowy mountains has led us to a present where we are blessed with our daughter, the greatest blessing in our lives.
During this past decade, we explored our mutual love for travel and adventure, and since then we have visited over 25 countries across 5 continents, and all 50 US States. We hiked and climbed the remotest mountains and hills in the country while playing the game of highpointing. 41 US State Highpoints out of 50 States. Some of these were in parts of the country where oftentimes, it would be just the two of us and the vastness of wilderness.
We have both grown so much in these years and as a result, we have changed too. It is in my wedding vow that captures the essence of growing in love with time, “I embrace you, all that you are, and all that you will become.” As life throws new challenges, responsibilities, and the busyness of everyday chores and mundane tasks, I need to remember this TRUTH today more than ever.
During this period, we have both lost family members including our dads. We remember them and we miss them. From loss, we have both learned to cherish what we do have right now and with us. There is so much that life teaches with time, but one thing it can’t prepare you for is the fear of the loss of a loved one, including each other. This TRUTH makes me want to commit ever harder to being kind to each other and give it my all to make the next 10 years even grander, sweeter, and full of love and new memories. I promise to myself and my wife to make our future bigger than our past and to make the next 10 years more exciting compared to the epic ride of the past 10 years. I believe it is when our future is bigger than our past, we truly begin to live with joy, hope, and excitement.
Cheers to the many upcoming decades my love! I love you! xo